Forgiving Your Circumstances

I was standing in the shower the other day and I was following a trail of thought where it would take me, without worrying about getting back to the trailhead. And something hit me…it was actually one of the very rare moments when I have an idea wholly new about a subject I’ve been thinking about for years on end.

This probably happens to coaches who come up with a new theory or at least a theory new to them. No one told them to strategize a particular way. They were just standing in front of the mirror shaving and Boom! they knew they had something worth pursuing.

Mine almost always happen in the shower. This is a new shower so maybe it has great karmic energy or something.

Just kidding about the karma.

Here’s the thought – a life being shaped by the beauty and wonder of grace will not only find it easier to forgive people but will also find it easier to forgive their circumstances.

Forgiveness requires a peculiar softness. And I think it is the peculiar nature of grace to soften a heart to the point of being softened toward the circumstances it may find itself knee-deep in. The soft-hearted person changed by grace longs to go beyond being resigned to circumstances to being reconciled to them. The same soul’s need to be reconciled to another soul will find it easier to be reconciled to and even make friends with difficulties and disappointments, sufferings and stress.

Think about it. Don’t you just naturally assume those who are forgiving of others will be more likely to see the redemptive possibilities in their own problematic circumstances?

It’s not immediate, of course. It takes time – so this is obviously beyond the legalist’s understanding. But what happens over time is being more susceptible to seeing the good in everything. You starting wanting to not be mad at people…at your lot in life or even your agenda for a day.

I’ve been convinced for a while that the more you get grace all over you, the more you’ll see goodness and beauty and awesome things everywhere all the time. This is about as certain as a fat kid wanting more cake. This may be established fact.

So lately I’ve wanted to be more forgiving. And it’s caused an expansion in my heart. And just moving toward that horizon has had an effect on the way I see my circumstances. I know I can’t literally forgive my circumstances but the same hatred of them has the same stench of hatred I am apt to feel towards others when I don’t forgive.

As I thought about all of this in that shower and began to dread the work-day in front of me, the dread was washed away like dirt and the day seemed a little brighter. I’m sure, just as I needed a shower the next day, I’ll need to be reminded of the peculiar nature of grace also. I’m just hoping this old, hard heart of mine will continue to soften toward the circumstances God has given.

Thursday’s Random Thoughts

1. “Sorry about accusing you of messing up my accounts, when it was really my fault.” said No One Ever

2. What if when we die and go to heaven and meet Jesus, he tells us, “For the record when I said forgive someone 70 x 7, I meant that literally – 491 times would be pushing you just a little too much.”

3. About the time I decided to take a break from blogging, my fantasy team began to crash and burn. Coincidence? I think not.

4. For all you young people out there – it’s ok to express appreciation for your country in non-ironic ways.

5. More Grapico.

6. Houses are always more expensive than you think. Even after you move in.

7. I have yet to hear one note of “Call Me Maybe.”

8. I’m going to go out on a limb and assume we are about to be taxed into oblivion if our current president gets his way.

9. The only explanation I can come up with for my wife’s dislike of Grapico is that she is a communist and hates to have fun.

10. I’m pretty convinced a heart changed by grace will not only want to forgive others but will want to forgive circumstances.

Midweek Music: Songs for the 4th from The Boss

Some songs for you from the Boss on Independence Day…

The first, is “4th of July, Asbury Park (Sandy)” from his first album, Asbury Park. The video is from Live at the Hammersmith Odeon back in 1975. You can get the DVD through Netflix and it is the kind of performance that leaves you speechless. The album is one of my favorites. And “Sandy” is about as beautiful and moving song as you’ll hear anywhere at anytime.

This next one has been around in the live shows for years and is now on the newest album, Wrecking Ball. There is a lot of what is great about America in this song without any triumphalism.

You can’t talk about Independence Day and Bruce without his “Independence Day” from The River.

And this final one because it’s what you expected and it’s epic live.

Why I Said “No” to Ghostwriting

This all began and ended last summer. It starts with being contacted because someone recommended me as a good writer.  You can imagine the instant flattery. I will not pretend it is not wonderful to be complimented as a writer.

The very first conversation I had with the agent (of sorts) was about editing a book written by a Christian athlete. I was elated. I tried to play it a little cool just so I would not freak out the guy I was talking with. But this sounded like work I would enjoy and the money sounded good.

But after a few weeks of emails and paperwork, things changed. What started out as being described as an editing job was starting to look more and more like me doing a lot of writing and while someone else would be credited as the author.

I was familiar with the practice of ghostwriting. And I had heard about the scandal of it in the Christian publishing industry. I wasn’t appalled. I’m too cynical for that. But I was surprised at how widespread it had become – to the point of me being asked to do it.

The very idea of being involved put my stomach in knots.

Who was I being asked to Ghostwrite for? Let’s just say a celebrity in some circles. I had never heard of him so it’s possible you would not know him, but many might. And he’s a nice guy. We talked on the phone and exchanged some emails. He means well.

He just did not want anyone else’s name on the cover. He actually said this.

He said this even though he had not yet even thought about the book besides an overarching theme. No paradigm. No outline. No chapter ideas. Nothing. I would have been expected to be the principal writer, from beginning to end, for a book not yet thought through.

The money would have been good. While we are not poor, we were doing good if we lived paycheck to paycheck. We still tread water to keep our financial head above the waterline. We never float. Saying “no” to this kind of job was not easy if only because we need – not just want – the money. Plus, I love getting paid to write. It’s spendable flattery. And the lights stay on.

But I was not going to ghostwrite. So, as hard as it was, I said “no”.  And here is why:

1) We live in a celebrity-driven culture. Inside and outside the church this is the case. Most would rather listen to a celebrity preacher and worship leader than their own pastor and music guy…you know, the ones who pray for them weekly. And we long to leverage that celebrity like some kind of unholy alliance with a pagan fulcrum. We push and pull and hope people will listen because of the voice. It’s a baptized version of the cult of personality. If this were not the case, Ghostwriting would not exist. Unless you are trying to capitalize upon the celebrity status of a person who does have the wherewithal to pen a volume, the need would not be there.

2) There is a reason they call them “ghostwriters.” They are present in the work. Just not seen. Not outright acknowledged. If they were acknowledged on the cover by a “With…” then the writer appears. They are present and seen as collaborators. They now have flesh and blood, skin and bone. They get royalties. Why would anyone not want the principal writer seen? It can only be pride or money. Pride wants all the credit. More money can be made if the work is seen as solely that of the celebrity.

3) Writing is hard and not everyone can do it well. This is nothing to brag about. Bragging about being able to write well is…well, like bragging because you can do plumbing. Pipes and fixtures are hieroglyphic mysteries to me. I can write but I can’t fix a darn thing. So boasting is excluded. But it is not easy to write and to write a book is even more difficult. I know because I have done so. Piecing together all those words and sentences into form and function is craft. Ghostwriting at once acknowledges this and then denies it. It acknowledges it in up-front payment and then denies it in production. “We think you have the talent to do this. But you will not be acknowledged as the author. The craft of writing a book is beyond our celebrity figure but he will get the credit for the book.”

4) It is flat dishonest. If you did not write the book, you are not the author. Or you are not the principal author. This is not hard. We teach our children not to take credit for work that is not theirs. Is this not the same? Except money is involved.

5) I simply would not be able to live with myself. This would mean I could be bought at a price. Whatever they would pay me would be my thirty pieces of silver I would not enjoy having in the least bit. My insides would be a mess till hung up, I’d have to spill my guts eventually in sorrow. I’d rather this writing be a hobby and do honest hard work than take this gift and use it  in a way in which respect for my work and my character are at odds.

6) How many books by gifted writers are squeezed out by such schemes? Stop and wonder with me for a moment. How many really great sentences have we have missed out on? How many wordsmiths languish in the shadows while celebrity non-writers have book signings? It staggers the imagination. More than that, it wars with conscience. Just because you are a good athlete or an eloquent preacher does not mean you should “write” a book. Of course if you can write and be a good athlete and be an eloquent preacher, by all means.

7) Of course, celebrities have a habit of being. But what if – think about this with me – what if we cultivated a christian publishing culture in which the writer became a celebrity for a time, because she could write? Instead of the culture we have now, where you write because you are a celebrity? Or someone writes for you, as the case before us demands. Imagine the unique experience of every time you picked up a Christian book, you knew the author was listed on the front of the book.

8) Can you imagine the hand of the body saying to the eye of the body, “I have need of your particular skills but let’s not be up front about the whole thing”? Just as Paul’s concern for the church was total, ours should be too. For this is an issue of how the church sees itself. Do the stars shine brighter? Do we orbit around the spheres of influence just hoping and praying they will dance with us? Is this the world in which we live and move and breath? Or do we inhabit a Kingdom with a King around which we gladly fall? You’d think we just find substitutes till the last day. And if the Christian celebrity and the Christian publishing house cannot muster the moral inertia to cast into print the actual author of a book, then is the ground level at the cross? Maybe it’s tiered.

9) It is possible my name could have ended up in the acknowledgements. A very good chance, I might add. So good I could guarantee it. But what would it have said? “This book could not have been written without you.” Well, yeah. But that could be said about the wife. Or a friend or an agent. Or God even. “Matt Redmond wrote the bulk of this book”? Not on your life

10) We need to push books that are well-written, not names or faces. Good, well-written books are so rare in Christian publishing. You can find them if you look hard enough. But the pragmatic desire to sermonize and monetize everything pushes out the craft. “If the message is good, the crafting of it does not matter” is the route du jour – ghostwritten or not. Or if the money is good, then we assume it is a good book – ghostwritten or not. But these things should not be so. We, Christians, of all people should care about good books and not just celebrities. The very God Whom we worship chose to use a book…a well-written one, by the way.