Tuesday’s 10: Advice I Wish I Could Send Back To A 19 Year Old Me

I’m approaching 40. And I’ve worked with a lot of young people over the years. Middle School. High School. College. Singles. Young Couples. Most of them are smarter and have better character than I did. In fact, it is hard for me to look back at me 20 years ago and see anything besides an ass. A good ole King James Bible ass. The following are 10 pieces of advice I would give myself if I could go back to the age of 19.

1. Listening to bands no one has ever heard of does not mean people should think you are cool. At all. It could just mean you are trying to show off. Not cool.

2. Your friend Scott is right. Jesus would probably drink wine if he were around today. Maybe out of a box.

3. Your bad decisions are indeed worse, contextually speaking, than what is happening in China. If only because you are using the suffering to divert your Mom’s attention from your irresponsibility.

4. Once you are part of the body of Christ, you are no longer just an individual any more.

5. You know nothing. Learn from those who have years on you.

6. Be kind at the risk of everything else.

7. Laugh at yourself with everyone else.

8. Keep writing. Even though no is reading. And don’t let that crappy Creative Writing teacher discourage you.

9. Just because you read something, saw something, heard something does not mean you understand it to the point of having a conviction. Stop. And think. For a long time. And then read some more. And think some more. And err on the side of silence.

10. Be glad to be wrong. Laugh about it and be glad someone else is enjoying being right.

This Peace With God

God’s Peace by Carl Larsson

(This is part of a series of posts: onetwothreefour, five, six.)

I want a peaceful soul.

But there is a God. Holy, to the hilt. And we have very little in common on that ground. And there is a part of me that cannot do anything but war against this God. I do not say this lightly. But truthfully.

When I am not warring with him I want peace with him. That fathoms-deep peace defying understanding. I want the peace he has already declared as a reality. But only sometimes.

I want to put down my weapons that defend. And offend. I want that. So my soul can taste something of this peace. But I’m bloodthirsty.

I’ve been reading Merton. He talks of this peace and I got excited, though scared because he’s Catholic. He fell in love with the peace inside monastery walls. But that is geography.

But I hear nothing of places of peace in Paul or Peter or Jesus. The soul at peace with God retains it though the walls cannot. Though they fall around and upon, still. But scarred stands.

This peace is strong in a world of hard hearts. The pushing against the organ with it’s blood pumping is painful. A world’s worth in my chest. But it chisels away.

This peace is fixed under the weight of a used-up cross and an empty tomb. And is the the dew sitting light on the lawn. But to nourish hard ground.

Tuesday’s 10: Blogs I Read Everyday

The plan: every tuesday will have a list of ten. Also part of the plan is for the lists to helpful and full of awesome.

The following are 10 blogs I read everyday. Of Course, I read more than 10 but these are the ones I try not to ever miss and if for some reason there is no post, my day just doesn’t go as well. They are listed in no particular order. I decided to not give any descriptions because then you might not click on the links. Don’t worry all links are safe. I think.

1. Don Miller

2. The Gospel Coalition

3. Abraham Piper

4. Hot Air

5. ABC 33/40 Weather

6. Baseball Musings

7. Rachel Held Evans

8. Internet Monk

9. Cranach: The Blog ofVeith

10. TiPB

What are your must read blogs? You know, besides this one…

No Random Thoughts Today After the Storm

Normally I would post my Random Thoughts for Thursday. But not today.

Right now they are saying 128 have been killed in my state as a result of Tornados. Much of my hometown of Birmingham and the towns surrounding it have been devastated. We are being asked to conserve water in the area because the Birmingham Water Works has lost some of it’s power. There are thousands upon thousands without power and in some areas they say the smell of gas fills the air causing many to stay outside. Some cannot get out of or into their neighborhood.

We ourselves were not directly affected by last night’s storms. The ‘excitement’ for us took place before the sun came up yesterday morning. The sirens went off, we checked the weather. While doing so, lightning flashed and what was just dark sky a minute before was now freakishly green. So we grabbed the baby and headed downstairs to huddle with the oldest two. The effect was only a few limbs in our yard but many of our neighbors in Bluff Park had multiple trees fall – some on their homes.
We are very thankful that we are safe and our families and friends are safe. But many, many lives will be changed as a result of yesterday’s events. Please pray for the towns of Tuscaloosa, Cullman, Hueytown, Pleasant Grove and Birmingham and all the others affected.
Below is frightening video of the tornado that ripped through Tuscaloosa and the Birmingham metro area.

10 Things I Say To My Wife That Make Our Marriage Great

I’ve been doing a lot of premarital counseling lately, which of course makes me think about how great my own marriage is. Why so great? I say things which help our marriage be great. The following is a sampling of what I say to my wife that contributes to the greatness:

1. “We don’t have to always do what I want. If we do what I want 90% of the time, that should be sufficient.”

2. “I want you to take a deep breath, step back and look at this body and see if you can be still be mad at me.”

3. “This tastes waaaaaayyy better than what you tried to make last night!”

4. “You look really hot tonight…do you have a fever?”

5. “Why are you wearing that? We can’t go swimming. It’s December. And it’s 10 o’clock at night!”

6. “You don’t “spell bad”… well… it’s not as bad as your grammar!”

7. “No, it’s not really all that weird that you are addicted to Lego Star Wars. What’s weird is that you are good at it.”

8. “You don’t do all the work around here, just most of it.”

9. “What makes you think we have money for children’s shoes when we *supposedly* can’t afford Angry Birds Rio?”

10. “I can’t believe you thought I would exclude you! Of course you’re included when I say everything is better with bacon.”

Random Thoughts While Sick

I’m sick.

And I have a lot to do – so blogging may be light over the next couple of days. However, since I cannot stop thinking, here ya go:

1) I think it’s weird when people say, ‘I hate being sick.’ And yet…

2) Being sick is a catch-22. The temptation is to be in a foul mood and make others miserable. However, if you smile a lot, people think you cannot be all that sick.

3) You might think I would crave bacon when sick. Nope. I crave Chinese food and swear by its healing powers.

4) I just called my 2 year old a ‘menace.’

5) Angry Birds makes me angry when I am not feeling well.

6) When sick I think about the other people who are well and envy them as if I will never be one of them again. I think back to the glory days of health and how I wasted those days! But alas, I am unwell.

7) Why are my kids so loud when I am sick?

8) I take Nyquil in a tankard.

9) I had started running again so I knew that sickness was on the way. Happens every time.

10) I know you think I am being a big baby. So. Takes one to know one. (Sticking tongue out) ~

Thursday’s Random Thoughts

1. Just got the new Adele album. Timeless. I’ve only listened through 3 times but I cannot imagine a better album coming out this year.

2. On the way to lunch yesterday with my 5 yr old son:
    Me: What a beautiful day!
    Knox: Yep!
    Me: With all the flowers, and trees and blue sky above.
    Knox: And beautiful cars and Star Wars…

3. If loving the Yankees is wrong I don’t wanna be right.

4. If we really cared about crime, all policemen would dress like they are S.W.A.T. and they would carry rocket-launchers.

5. Wait a second, did that Rebecca Black song come out on April 1st?

6. I know I’m supposed to be waiting for the economy to get better or something but I really am just waiting for Angry Birds Easter.

7. Was reading the other day about a writer’s need for “branding” among other things. I don’t know about the other things but that branding has got to hurt.

8. Every time I cook my kids bacon I pray to the God of the New Covenant that they will not eat it.

9. My desire for the US budget to be cut and for the reduction of government spending comes from my hatred of children, women and old people. And puppies.

10. Parachute Pants > Skinny Jeans.

Midweek Music: 10 Reasons I Love Van Morrison

I know, I know. But this is my last post on Van the Man for a while…maybe.

1. A pursuit of beauty. It shows up again and again in his songs and set him apart from every other singer/songwriter I know. Beauty is not only the means but the ends for Van. And when that comes through the eyes and voice and heart of a curmudgeonly old man it’s well…it’s beautiful.

2.  Songs that could have been written yesterday or 40 years ago. He is writing songs that not only fit with the music he was making 40 years ago. He is writing songs that simply fit in with the old Jazz and Blues which he grew up listening to on the BBC.

3. His love of music. The music is the end for Van. He is not making music to make money. The money allows him to do what he wants, which is to make more music. He not only sings, he sings about singing and the music itself is often the subject.

4. His love of musicians. I love to hear Van sing about the musicians he loves. I love to hear him talk about them in the rare interviews he does. he seems to be constantly pointing to other great musicians. Most of which are dead. I would not have known Jelly Roll Morton, Sidney Bechet and Lester Young apart from Van singing about them. And he loves to surround himself with great musicians and singers and make sure we hear them. The video below is an excellent example of this.

5. No protest songs. No politics at all. His music transcends it all. Thankfully, in a world where everything is politicized I can sit down with Van and not have to enter in to such.

6. Spirituality. Van went through a Christian phase and probably a Zen phase among others. I simply  love the fact there is always an element of something transcendent going on above. The music and lyrics speak to this throughout his career. His version of “Be Thou My Vision” is the best I’ve ever heard. He does not make it sound like anything other than what it is…a hymn. By the way, did you know that “Have I Told You Lately That I Love You?” is a prayer to God? Below is a crazy good version of this song live.

7. A sense of place. Van name-checks towns and streets and countries and villages frequently. And so the songs belong not out in some ethereal nowhere. They are fixed very often in places you can find on a map. And usually in Ireland, his home. I get that. Because I love my home, I can understand someone writing beautiful songs about where you are from.

8. A sense of history. His own history and the history of music itself. The songs are full of the memories of a man growing old and weary of the world in which he finds himself.

9. Lyrics as poetry. You would be hard-pressed to find a song of Van’s which could not stand alone as poetry. In fact he has a few poems set to music on his albums. No wonder, for his love of poetry is evident. He references Donne, Kerouac and T.S. Eliot.

10. He’s been doing the same thing for a long time. I understand the need for an artist to grow and do different things. But I also love that Van does different kinds of music while never really doing anything different. Sure, he’s done Pop, Country, Jazz, R&B, Soul, Blues, Celtic, Rockabilly and Skiffle. But you could put it all on the same album and it’s still Van doing his thing. No compromise. Just him, “Into the Music” as it were.

Tuesday’s Random Thoughts

1. Most churches talk about what they are going to do or what God will do if you do something. Rarely is the talk characterized by what God has done and is doing regardless of anything else.

2. In our present culture you can criticize Capitalism and tweet or update your fb status about your excitement over your brand name shoes. And no one even notices.

3. I have a long way to go to get to a peaceful soul.

4. Young evangelicals like to see the spark of faith when unbelieving artists use words like “grace,” “mercy” and “love” but will not look for it in those whose theology they disagree with.

5. My son whines about going to t-ball and then whines when it is over.

6. Just got my car fixed and looking forward to a month of not having to get it fixed.

7. Pizza has mystical healing properties.

8. So does the voice of Billie Holiday.

9. If it is not enough that your church administers the sacraments, prays together, preaches the word faithfully and spends time in fellowship together then it is not a church you are looking for.

10. There is no bacon. – saying of a sad Zen Master