Tuesday’s 10: Books for the Young, Restless and Reformed

Back about two years ago, a young man confronted me on Facebook. He could not understand why I was plugging a particular Christian writer/pastor when I could be reading and plugging the “Johns” – Jonathan Edwards, John Calvin and John Piper. I explained to him I started those guys when he was still reading picture books. I also explained the need for us to read broadly and to not dismiss those we may disagree with, so offhandedly. 
He was not impressed.
But hopefully you will be. Hopefully, you will see the value of reading those authors and books less obvious within the Young, Restless and Reformed camp. Some of these will be more off the beaten path than others. Some will be so off the beaten path, you’ll need a machete to find them. And then you’ll have read them in secret.
But do it. You need varying perspectives. And you can learn things you did not know and see things you would not have seen about yourself and God and others by reading outside the “canon” of the YRR a little.
This is not a definitive list, just my list.

1. Eugene Peterson. I owe Peterson my sanity. That is no exaggeration. His vision of pastoral  and ecclesiastical life were an oasis for this parched man. He taught and is still teaching me that God is very often in silent out-of-the-way places. Start with Christ Plays in Thousand Places.

2. C. S. Lewis. You may have read some Lewis but I encourage to move beyond the obvious and read something like On Stories. His writing is superb and his perspective is singular.

3. Thomas Merton. This one is going to be hard for some of you because he was a Catholic Monk. But he was a renegade and his writings are not only poetic but also full of the kind of gems who can think on for months on end. Start with his memoir, The Seven Storey Mountain.

4. Anne Lamott. I’m late to the party on Lamott. But just glad I arrived. She will offend on one page and then warm you to the core of your being on the next. Start anywhere.

5. Francis Schaeffer. I discovered Schaeffer in college and fell in love with his writings immediately. his love and respect for unbelievers is a model for the church in the West. Or at least it should be. Start with The Great Evangelical Disaster.

6. Rob Bell. I just blew your mind, I know. But hang on and let me explain. I have not read a lot of Rob Bell. But what i have read has been helpful for two reasons. First, my primary exposure to the “emergent church” was through criticism. And reading Bell gave me a closer look and helped me relax my criticism. Second, while I disagree with Bell on Hell, I think he genuinely cares for people and for the reputation of God. Reading that book helped me see this. By the way, he is closer to Lewis on Hell than you are.

7. Steve Brown. If you need a guy who oozes grace from every pore and page, this is your guy. And unless you are reading Keller, you of the YRR are probably not getting a lot of grace while talking about it. I owe you all a  review of Three Free Sins, his new book. Start there.

8. G. K. Chesterton. Witty, funny and my favorite apologist for the Christian faith. Also a Catholic and one who is very critical of Calvinism in Orthodoxy, you may want to take off your Jonathan Edwards is my homeboy T-shirt before you begin.

9. Donald Miller. I was a vocal critic of Miller until I actually read Blue Like Jazz. Shockingly, I liked it. And he just seems like a likable guy, who can write well and pull back a layer of hardness to reveal the fleshy tenderness of a soul.
10. Mary Karr. Sorry, she’s Catholic too. You know, they are the best writers. And her book Lit is outstanding. It’s the story of her overcoming her alcoholism and her embrace of Catholicism. I cried like a school girl often while reading of her failures and victories.

Superdad Takes On Weekend Without Mom: Part 4

Go here for parts One, Two and Three.

We pick up the story with Mom calling at 3 AM to tell me Emma has been getting sick every 15 minutes for a few hours.

Saturday, May 5th, 3:15 AM

I’ve gotten myself ready. I’m awake for the most part and in shock.

And the question that keeps running through my mind with ferocity is, “Why in the middle of the night? why not during the day, after I’ve slept and recovered from this insane day?”

“Why God?”

I tell you the truth, it sounds funny now but it was really horrific at this time of day. You see I hate everyone at 3 AM. When I was a youth pastor – that is after my first gig – I wrote it in my contract I would not do lock-ins. I don’t like hating people. And at 3 AM, I get crazy. Not even God escapes my irrational fury.

Plus, I like to sleep.

Now I have to wake up Knox. This is surprisingly easy. I grab him a change of clothes and we get in the van.

3:30 AM

“Daddy, where are all the cars?”

“In their respective garages, buddy.”

The fog was thick and we were indeed virtually alone until we merged onto the interstate. This is the same interstate we were on earlier. No longer is it a parking lot. We are traveling in a different direction. And Knox is no longer sick. In fact, he is wide-eyed. This is really an adventure for him. He cannot stop smiling and asking questions about the fog and our inability to get away from it.

Finally, he just declares it “creepy.”

3:45 AM

We pull up to my parents. The street is dark – the house darker. But my mom is waiting and she ushers us both upstairs. Emma looks terrible. Just like Knox did about 15 hours earlier.

A suppository always works for Emma so I decide to use one.

I know what you are thinking but you have to understand we have had to admit Emma twice to stave off dehydration. And I’ve already been to the ER once in the past 12 hours. This madness has got to stop.

4 AM

The suppository has been, errr, administered. Knox is on a pallet at the foot of the bed Emma and I are in.

Now, we wait.

5 AM

No change at all. This virus is having it’s way with her just as it did with Knox. Every 15 minutes a nightmare.

5:45 AM

I’m having to come to grips with the fact this looks exactly like what happened with Knox. And the result is going to be the same. I call the ER at Children’s. The doc I get tells me the exact opposite of what I was told by the pediatrician earlier in the day.

Dear Doctors, Can y’all get on the same page, here? OK, thanks!

6 AM

The sun is up. Lights creeps through the blinds. For some reason this brings relief and resolve. It’s around this time, I realize I feel fine. No nausea and no achey joints. Just worry over Emma.

I’m going with my gut. I let my mom know, Emma and I are headed back to the ER.

6:15 AM

So I dress my beautiful little girl, pick her up and carry her down to the van. Bowl in hand.

She also gets sick on the way to the ER. The drive is twice as long as when I took Knox. But she does well. She sleeps most of the time.

I should probably admit that if there had been no free valet parking at the ER I would not have been as ready to go. Feels good to admit that.

6:45 AM

We walk in with a couple of nurses who I assume will be starting their 7 AM shift. No one is waiting in the waiting room. We go back at once and are helped by the doctor who I talked with on the phone. He takes vitals and is nothing but kind to Emma and myself.

7 AM

We are in a private room and in walks a nurse – one of the nurses who helped us yesterday. She wonders what is going and realizes it is a different kid.

“It spread, huh?”

“Yep.”

I explain that she reminded me too much of what I saw in Knox. And she responded by telling me they would take care of it.

Phew.

They may think I’m insane but they did not say it to my face.

7:30 AM

I am now famous throughout the ER for being the Dad to bring in two kids in two days while mom is on vacation. They know she doesn’t know. There is often 3 to 5 people in our room – nurses, doctors – some helping, some just talking and hanging out.

I’m kinda one of them now. I mean, I know where the bathroom is, how the TV works and where the Pharmacy is. I belong.

Thankfully they give Emma some Zofran. It works like magic. I make a note to invest in Zofran and hoard supplies of it.

8 AM

They finally let me know I made a good decision in bringing her in. She was “very dry” according to the awesome young lady Doctor.

She does not do quite as well as Knox with the IV but once it’s in, she goes right to sleep.

9 AM

I’m glad to see Emma already doing better. There is much more color in her face after an hour of fluids. But now I’m wondering how Bethany is.

She sends me a text –

“How are y’all?”

“We are doing good. How are you?”

“Woke up feeling normal!!! really hope that continues. So glad y’all are better.”

“I feel totally normal also. I’ll call you after I get the other two and get home.”

“OK.”

Phew. I don’t like lying to her and leaving out the fact I am in the ER for the second time in 24 hours but she is about to have an epic day at the beach with two of her best friends. She deserves this.

The truth can wait.

10 AM

Green Gatorade!

“Ummm, can we get some red? And maybe some eggs benedict?”

Red Gatorade!

She barely wakes up to drink a little every 5 minutes or so.

11 AM

Doc says she is looking good, so we are free to go. I make all the calls necessary letting the in-laws and my folks know we are leaving the hospital soon. My mom says she will have the boys ready when we get there.

I start calculating – 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 – OK, all of us have had it now…

Breeeeeeeeeeeathe.

11:30

We pick up the boys, thank my parents for the heroic help, and head home.

Sat. 12 PM – Sun. 6 PM

It was pretty much sleep, sleep, Phineus and Ferb, Spider-man cartoons and more sleep. There was one point not long before bed time where Emma said her tunny hurt a little. So I quickly called my father-in-law who lives around the corner and got him to run down to the Pharmacy and pick up a prescription for Zofran. He made it just as they were closing, like a hero. I was stoked to see this was a drinkable version and she was feeling better within minutes.

Wait, I need to back up.

Sunday 5 PM 

Bethany is about an hour from home. And so I decide to tell her the whole story before she gets home. She didn’t even know Emma had gotten sick. So I started by telling her that because I didn’t want her to worry about her getting sick. She can relax knowing we’ve all had the disease now and lived to tell.

She was thankful but could not believe it.

And to be honest, I lived through the whole thing and I still have trouble believing it.

Finis…thank God.

Thursday’s Random Thoughts

1. Let me start by thanking all of you for praying for my fantasy team. I can see that you are praying just by looking at my stats.

2. I now only have one or two pastors in my twitter “reading list.” I can only handle so many mini sermons a day.

3. After a thorough review, I heartily approve of Aldi’s bacon.

4. Speaking of prayer, would you pray the vault doesn’t open today so my 4 day weekend would transform into a 5 day weekend? Thanks.

5. My wife is going to the beach this weekend and it will be just us kids.

6. Suddenly, no one is all that passionate about justice for Trayvon. Go figure.

7. My wife just asked me how old she is.

8. I’m calling it – the argument that evangelicalism is too wedded to politics is preposterous.

9. You know what’s awesome? Awesome stuff.

10. Some days work is so bad, I ask my friend Sean to send me Red Sox Trivia. I’m a Yankees fan.

Thursday’s Random Thoughts

1. Thinking about applying for the position of CEO of the company I work for. It’s not an open position but I want them to know I’m interested.

2. We hand out too much fine print in the Church.

3. Last week I asked y’all to pray for my fantasy baseball and it was obvious you did not. Thanks for that.

4. I was supposed to go to a “security meeting” yesterday but when I found out they were not giving us throwing stars, I decided to postpone it.

5. Where is the Bacon Genie when you need him?

6. I saw a couple of people got annoyed about my post on 10 ways to annoy a legalist.

7. Epic Security/Marketing Idea for Banks: “Every Branch has a Ninja.”

8. You do realize that pretty much everything we were told at the beginning of the Martin/Zimmerman coverage has been now shown to be wrong, don’t you?

9. Spirit > Written Code

10. Maybe I should apply for Head of Security.

Thursday’s Random Thoughts

1. I am now confident enough in my job to pretend like I know what I’m talking about it.

2. Every ministry leans toward legalism, not just youth ministry.

3. If you have not prayed for my fantasy baseball team, would you please do so now? Feel free to share this need in your small group.

4. “The Bible doesn’t mention dating but we are going to tell you how to do it or not to do it at all.”

5. Pure repentance is the spiritual equivalence of a unicorn.

6.  My favorite Dirty Dancing prequel is Red Dawn (Wolverines!).

7. I run, therefore I eat bacon.

8. The first vocation was gardening not preaching.

9. My first-baseman couldn’t hit and in fact struck out constantly. So I benched him. Now he’s hitting doubles like DiMaggio.

10. “Behold, I make all things new” is good news.

Thursday’s Random Thoughts

1. Paterno, Peyton and Petrino.

2. The idea of a post-race culture is a chimera if only because we must make anything and everything about race, every time and all the time. We are rescuing the drowning with anvils.

3. I was eating sausage the other day and I thought, “Something is missing.” It took me a moment but I realized that something was bacon.

4. CJ Mahaney is speaking at T4G on the subject, “When Pastors Lose Heart.” I no longer have the least desire to be a part of the YRR movement. At all.

5. Working with an editor on your book is all at once exhilarating and humbling.

6. A pastor who is happy in obscurity is a good pastor.

7. If you don’t mind, could you take just a moment and pray for my fantasy team today? I only have one pitcher in the mix today and I need him to dominate.

8. Justice for non-skinny jean wearers!

9. The resurrection of The King may be the most neglected fact in our everyday lives.

10. I never knew as a pastor the relentless difficulty of working as a believer out in the real world. If I had, I would have shown much more grace and tenderness. At least I would like to think I would have.

Next week on the blog

Consider this a post getting you ready for a slew of posts.

A number of you have wanted a little more from me regarding what is going with Mars Hill Church in Seattle. (And I can only assume a few want me to say nothing.) So far I’ve only pointed you to what is happening and been revealed. Important enough, I think. But there is much more to be said. So next week – starting Monday – I’ll try to answer the question, “Why does it matter?”

Why does it matter what a church in Seattle does?

I may say more. And hopefully what I say will point people to the grace we all crave. I’m hoping for hope. As much as I just want rail and throw stones, I’ll try not to do that. You’ll probably hear the echoes of what sounds like it but maybe it’s the sound of the rubble being pulled away.

Over the past few days, I’ve heard from a number of you. Lots off hurt souls out there, still bearing tender scars. A few pastors reeling. Many feel betrayed. Too many for us to be comfortable with.

Oh, and for those who think I’m talking about this too much or shouldn’t be talking about it all, feel free to go over to The Gospel Coalition site, Desiring God, etc. They are doing a fine job of not discussing Mars Hill.

Thursday’s Random Thoughts

1. I honestly cannot imagine having a worse day at work than I had yesterday. Nothing funny about it. Sorry I brought it up.

2. Is it OK to eat Papa Murphy’s pizza before going to hear Wendell Berry speak? I may know, ummm, a person who might have…

3. In the past 10 days we’ve had 3 serious storm predictions for the Birmingham area. And we are 0-3.

4. Finished Steve Brown’s Three Free Sins. Review coming soon. One word review for the time being – needed.

5. Achtung Baby is my favorite Christian album.

6. Baseball is the most Zen of Sports.

7. The worst part of being a Mac user is expecting everything else to work.

8. Bacon is the most Zen of meats.

9. This winter has been the best spring ever.

10. At work I have to sign my name on pieces of paper I cannot understand. I assume this is what it’s like to be a politician.

Tuesday’s 10: 10 popular versions of Tuesday’s 10

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3. Favorite Foods

4. Advice I Wish I Could Send Back to a 19 Year Old Me

5.  Things I Say to My Wife That Make Our Marriage Great

6. Reasons to Read Flannery O’Connor

7. Sandwiches I Wish I was Eating

8. Reflections After A Week of Banking

9.  Reasons to Read Jane Austen’s Novels

10.  Books I read Over and Over